With the development of the times, our pace of life is constantly accelerating, so that we have psychological problems to varying degrees. If we intervene in a timely manner, there will naturally be no problems, but we will not care if we do not pay attention to it all the time. It is easy to cause depression.
Depression is very common nowadays, and it has become a pandemic. Most adults will be more common, because adults will face a variety of pressures, but now students are also prone to depression. When students have depression, they will often say the following words. At this time, parents must pay attention to it. It is likely that they are suffering from depression.
1. "I can't"
Nowadays, many junior high school students have added a lot of courses, and the pressure of studying the above has naturally increased a lot. Some students fail to adjust their learning methods in time after entering junior high school, resulting in a rapid decline in academic performance. It is difficult to get the grades you want, which causes your self-confidence to drop. Many children pay much attention to their own learning for the sake of their parents' vanity, so they have a decadent psychology, which makes it easy to have negative emotions that they think they can't do. However, many parents do not understand that their children have been ridiculing their children, causing second-degree trauma and eventually suffering from depression.
2. "Oh, it's meaningless"
Learning is immutable. If students do not find the correct learning method, they will easily feel bored because of learning, and will have a strong negative psychology. Many students now think that such a static life, without interest, but no way to change by themselves, is easy to produce negative negative emotions. When there is a long-term negative attitude, it will undoubtedly accumulate a lot of negative emotions, and thus lose interest in life, which will increase the chance of depression. If parents don’t help their children, they are prone to depression.
3. "I can't do it, I can't do it well"
If you want a good result, persistence is not enough to have confidence. It is difficult to persevere in one thing if there is insufficient confidence, and the same is true for adults. As long as you encounter difficulties, you will think that you can't do well, which will cause an endless loop, and you will not succeed anyway. When we are negative, we often say things that we can't do to comfort ourselves, so that we can accept the result of this failure. But in this way, negative emotions will continue to accumulate, which will not only wear down self-confidence, but will also usher in negative comments from people around you, especially parents, because of continuous failure. This can easily cause children to suffer from depression.
How do parents communicate with their children correctly?
Squatting down, giving children active attention and listening, it will be effective in itself, creating a respected and trusted environment, allowing children to release their emotions, express their true feelings and needs, thereby inspiring and enhancing children’s self The ability to repair. The problem is naturally easy to solve.
Emotion is a kind of feeling. There is no right or wrong in itself, only the way of expressing emotion is good or bad. So what parents need to do is to accept any emotions of their children, and gradually teach their children how to express themselves appropriately through demonstrations, games, stories, etc.
Don't think about children in our adult way of thinking and our own will. We must strive to cross the age span between us and our children, see the world from their perspective, and feel their hearts.
Don't rush to give suggestions, define the problem first, and inspire the children to think and solve the problem by themselves.
When necessary, give your different suggestions, let the children estimate the possible consequences of various solutions by themselves or together with the children, and let the children make choices.
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